tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3609853056171911143.post7606251956997150997..comments2023-08-08T10:17:39.767-04:00Comments on Suburban Rebel Mom: Extreme Consequences: Thoughts?SRMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15399040913925026575noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3609853056171911143.post-63241311130417957052012-02-17T14:25:29.257-05:002012-02-17T14:25:29.257-05:00OK, here are my thoughts. I'm sure you're ...OK, here are my thoughts. I'm sure you're waiting anxiously;) I think she deserved to have her lap top taken and trashed. What she did was disrespectful and unkind. I think she got a taste of her own medicine when he went public with it. I used to teach middle school and I had a philosphy (this is going to sound awful so let me explain before you think I'm a compelte a-hole) My philosphy was this: a little embarrassment goes a long way. <br /><br />Here's why: when kids are little they behave because they are afraid of a consequence- losing a privelege or getting a time out/spanking whatever. But as they get older we lose a lot of that stuff as motivators for them. Their currencly is street cred, peer acceptance, and the thoughts of others. <br /><br />We are not much differnet from our kids. A lot of the time we behave not because we have good hearts, but because we know the way we actually WANT to behave or what we really WANT to say is not socially acceptable. We are really just children with a better veneer. <br /><br />My point, is that we all need a motivator since innately we won't always do what is right. For teens, the external motivator is fear of embarassment. It's a powerful tool and one we need in our arsenal. I think this dad gets that.<br /><br />Personally, I think the shooting thing was too far. But that's probably beause there is no farm in the background of any of my homemade videos and i don't have a 10 gallon hat. I grew up in sunny San Diego. We'd probably just pour sunscreen all over it;)<br /><br />Still loving your blog so much and am so glad we got connected! Thanks.<br />V<br />www.thepursuitofnormal.blogspot.com<br /><br />by the way: I didnt' ask if it was ok if i put my blog link in my signature. i saw a few others did but if you wish I wouldn't let me know and Ill be sure not to do it again;)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08903649464858533432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3609853056171911143.post-86652435823566092532012-02-13T11:16:04.443-05:002012-02-13T11:16:04.443-05:00Thanks for the comment, jessica! I must admit I di...Thanks for the comment, jessica! I must admit I did have an internal panic of "NOT THE LAPTOP!!!" when he shot it. <br /><br />I could see myself doing something like this though. Maybe not shooting the laptop, but something that really made a statement to my kids to know that Im not going to pansy out if they do something they weren't warned about.SRMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15399040913925026575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3609853056171911143.post-80367775060840618432012-02-13T11:03:54.027-05:002012-02-13T11:03:54.027-05:00Well after watching the video and hearing all the ...Well after watching the video and hearing all the stuff she said about her parents on a PUBLIC forum I don't think he went to far. I can understand his frustration and understand how kids feel entitled to EVERYTHING today. Often times there aren't any consequences for kids behaviors and such and it gets old real quick. If my daughters (which are younger) ever did that to me...I'm not sure I would put a bullet in their lap top but I would come really close. I think its great that he took a stand!J Knorrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15771546815172270227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3609853056171911143.post-61265708103021695002012-02-13T10:34:06.207-05:002012-02-13T10:34:06.207-05:00Hi Heather! Thanks for both the thoughtful comment...Hi Heather! Thanks for both the thoughtful comment and the follow! I'll head over and follow you now!SRMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15399040913925026575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3609853056171911143.post-82387140138669930572012-02-13T10:26:00.668-05:002012-02-13T10:26:00.668-05:00I've seen this a couple times now. The pendul...I've seen this a couple times now. The pendulum swings is what I think. We went too far in being friends, and now the pend swings the other way again. Parenting is hard, and while my baby is still not talking back, I wonder how I will handle it. Heather from Rockstew.com found you from Make My Morning blog. Following now (follower and facebook) please follow back.Heather Stewart McCurdyhttp://www.rockstew.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3609853056171911143.post-64681447824948728192012-02-12T19:47:54.875-05:002012-02-12T19:47:54.875-05:00Thanks for the thoughtful comments!Thanks for the thoughtful comments!SRMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15399040913925026575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3609853056171911143.post-69432322928858623182012-02-12T18:41:18.376-05:002012-02-12T18:41:18.376-05:00I think he might have gone a little too far, but i...I think he might have gone a little too far, but it doesn't bother me. I think that for the most part, today as a whole, there are no consequences for kids. They feel entitled. Once again, don't know that I would shoot a laptop, but good for him for taking a stand.<br /><br />New follower from Mom Bloggers. Follow me at:<br /><br />A Joyful Life<br />http://ajoy-fullife.blogspot.comlovejoy_31https://www.blogger.com/profile/08916054109678188624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3609853056171911143.post-56927433096633544902012-02-11T20:39:01.201-05:002012-02-11T20:39:01.201-05:00Wow. Not to sure how I feel about this. On one han...Wow. Not to sure how I feel about this. On one hand I agree.. I mean I wouldn't go shooting up the laptop but on the other he got his point across. LOLAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com